CAN IT BE BOUGHT?

I had this argument with a friend of mine the other day, on the importance of packaging. I was of the opinion that packaging was not the first port of call in any type of relationship, be it a formal one or just informal and as a matter of fact, that packaging was over ‘hyped’ in our time. I stated that the content was of utmost importance and should be given more attention. My friend had other ideas; he spoke on the point of attraction. What attracts a young man to a girl first? Her beauty, grace or her attitude? Is it what you can see or what you can not? Well I suggested he marry an attractive yet ill mannered lady. The argument took a lot of dimensions, from a diamond in the rough to the glitter of items which are seemingly gold, from wolves in sheep skin to allure of evil, but one point where I could not help but agree with him was, all these revolved around the act that they worked and people, no matter hw careful you might be, you can never be too sure about something until you have tasted it yourself and guaranteed that it is what it says it is. You may not be able to fight attraction but you can tread carefully and make a lot of scrutiny but would you be living life if you decided not to make mistakes. Its in our nature to love and demand and wish for attractive stuff, but a wise man would say “all that glitters is not GOLD”
That said I have come to see that packaging indeed is the first port of call, the opportunity creator, it is the avenue for open doors but spend as much time on packaging as you spend on content, life is meant to be balanced. Content may not be able to be bought but must be toiled for but packaging…. Can it be bought?

YEARS HAVE INDEED GONE BY!

Many years have gone by indeed and the experiences which we have gained have made us stronger. We have made some mistakes over and over again but we are still alive to look back and probably laugh. I have made a handful of mistakes over and over again I sometimes wonder if I am alright at all. Time waits for no man and there is never enough time to do all we intend to or dream of doing. But one thing that comes with time is change and it’s not up to you or me to control it, it just happens. You may want to change your look or your wardrobe or your diet or even your friends, in fact you may wish to change everything about yourself and for whatever reason that you can come up with. Time will pass on that, the outcome could be a laugh, regret or fulfilment, but only after some time has passed. A lot of things have happened to me and my family in the past few years, some good, some bad, some exceptional while others just ordinary, and they all happened to the same set of people (my family). Funny enough, the reception of these things varied from individual to individual and this is where I am stuck. 4 years ago if I was told to go and live with any of my sisters, I would have jumped at the idea, but now I think I’d rather spend my holidays on my own and occasionally visit my family. Is this what time does to the mind? Does it change your outlook to my life and those in it? Well only time will reveal what will happen but don’t get me wrong, time does not creep up on us. No it doesn’t, it gives us time to prepare and provides us with resources to tackle the next obstacle, it’s a funny thing this life. Why don’t you just keep laughing? The years will continue to role by and our lives continue to unravel before our very eyes. There are surprises for everyone (as well as shocks and disappointments) so be ready to embrace life. As for me, things can only get better and this I strongly believe.

LETS HELP HAITI

It’s rather early in the year to start talking about disaster of any kind, natural or otherwise, but that does not stop it from happening. Whenever we hear of disaster that means it happens to people who least expect it or are in the worst possible position to do anything about it on their own, both in prevention and in the relief afterwards. The people of Haiti have touched the world and indeed called us to pay more attention to the 3rd world countries, to Africa, to the women and children who have been neglected for a very long time. The new decade indeed starts with a wakeup call to all those in positions of authority; it’s time to face issues that affect human life directly. Mother Nature is calling us all to arise and take up the challenge and be ‘our brother’s keepers’. Is this a decade of more charity? I don’t know yet, and only time will tell. Looking back at the decade just ended a lot of financial crisis but no one person died as a direct effect of this crisis, yet little Haiti in a twinkle of an eye suffered a disaster that has claimed so many lives. This shows that the world and its leaders should channel their efforts into more humanitarian gestures, especially to the 3rd world and its population. The world would indeed become a better place if as much care being shown to Haiti now would be sustained and extended to other countries of similar plight even without a natural disaster. Let us join hands in prayer for the victims and our hearts in solidarity to a nation in distress and hope that this is the worst that can happen. Let us help Haiti, let us help the world

LOYALTY!

Who do I lie to? My family or my friends. Among my friends who deserves the truth at all or should I say most times. Who do I expect the truth from and how much is enough truth. How do you feel when you are left in the dark? These are some of the questions that come up on the loyalty test. Your concern for someone may sometimes not be your business; it is most times up to the person in question to let you in or out. Do you feel left out in a relationship be it mere friendship? Well a good friend is hard to come by and I must say are in high demand. Your family, you may not have the liberty to choose, so to them you should have a minimum level of loyalty that you must keep, but your friends on the other hand, you have a choice... you have the power to maintain one or ‘kick it to the curbs’. But even among friends it’s a difficult task maintain the balance of loyalty when you eventually find yourself in the middle. Will diplomacy work? That depends on the situation, but chooses ye wisely thy friends your enemies will choose themselves. Let your loyalty lie with yourself and everything that makes you HAPPY because friends will disappoint you and that’s whether you believe it or not. So to answer the question ‘who do I lie to?’ why not ‘who deserves the truth?’. Your loyalty lies within you so don’t lie to yourself because you DESERVE the TRUTH.

Happy new year!!!!

Are we relieved that the year is over, that the decade is over?Should we look back and say 'oh what a horrible year this has been'? Well, its over and there is absolutely nothing you or anyone else can do about it. But if given the chance, would you want to change anything you have done (or not done) in the last decade? it's your life anyway but its our world, our universe. it has not been the most pleasant year 2009 but it has come with its own lessons and i think a lot has been learned. Economic crisis, political crisis, academic crisis, well we have had quite a number of crisis this year but we have had and still have HOPE... things can only get better and that is not being optimistic, it is being realistic. Get on the and wagon, its A NEW YEAR, a clean slate, a new beginning.... its a new day, it is the right time to start, it is the best time to start, let us learn from the year ending and work towards a better year. Remember, there is only one way to go now...UP! Have a good and purposeful year.


HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!

is it or isn't it?

Now, its christmas and a lot of christmas messages are in the air, some are funny- near hilarious, others are serious with a lot of messages, still others emotional and bring tears to the eyes of the reader.... honestly who reads an sms sent during christmas? most people just rread the names of sender and store the message just to know who and who remembers you during the festive season. I remember a message i received during the Easter season and i don't remember the word "easter" being abbreviated to "e". Why then do people find it easier to abbreviate christmas to "x".... just a thought

the people you care about....

what do you tell someone you care about when you find out that the person is not just in physical pain but also emotional pain... not only is it painful but it has been lingering even before u met them... well telling them its going to be alright may just sound patronising and i guarantee u dont want to be seen as patronizing looking at the magnitude of the pain the person is going through. the truth may seem harsh but the mode of delivery of such a heavy news might just suffice... this does not call for diplomacy of any sorts but honesty to oneself and indeed translating this message in as subtle a manner to give ,not hope this time but joy and happiness.... that is the only message that can keep the flame of hope alive even un the most depressed persons... its going to be tough but keep in mind these key words.... the truth, happiness the flame of hope

challenges.... they are the major reason for so many conflicts in this world... Alex the great... Julius Ceaser... Adolf Hitler just to mention a few. but a friend of mine asked, after the victory what next. A lot of people pay no heed to what is to be done as they are so engrossed in the victory at hand. life goes on and more challenges come up but the annoying thing about this is that opportunities and victories are not best utilized when in abundance and seldom fall to those who "may" appreciate it more. whats left to say....

looking forward

so many things to be done in so little a time is the most convenient excuse but any excuse is better than none. reason is what a lot of people want... they want to understand things, they want to master their environment... one big question i should not ask is.... to what end are all these things facing... is the future as bright as we want to believe.... going forward may seem difficult when the present is comfortable but looking forward long enough might just do the trick. like the saying goes... LOOK before u leap

lets see,... this is all new to me, i actually need someone to put me through but hopefully in the nearest future i'd get the hang of this and make the most of this opportunity but in the mean time lets see, inspiration just has to keep on flowing else this would just become monotonous ... hope to enjoy this as much as i expect....