Don't Impress Her

That doesn’t sound right, does it? Why shouldn’t she be impressed or why shouldn’t I impress her? Is it that she isn’t worth it? Well it is quite simple. Women are not created to be impressed. They could be impressed by the weirdest stuff that could ever exist. Yes! Most are impressed by material things and a show of wealth and affluence and confidence and all the beautiful things of life, a trip in a private jet to Paris and then to the exquisite island of Bali and a chauffeur driven limo to Buckingham palace to dine with the queen and then to the grand canyon in a hot air balloon. She will be impressed by all these and even more if you are a baddass like Tom Cruise in mission impossible or Bruce Willis in die hard but the truth is if that is not what you are you have just wasted resources and time. Will she be impressed with a white collar job? A routine life? Family? Well there is only one way to find out. Women want to be impressed, most times they would gratify you for impressing them or inflate your ego but along comes a more impressive ‘fella’ and more impressive stunts and there goes your swag. So why shouldn’t you impress a lady. Except she is already yours then impressing her is just... how do I say this nicely, yeah! “very short term”. Most men would impress a lady just so they could... yeah! Sleep with her and it works most of the time. A brief show of affluence will get the lady looking impressively at you and start wondering how the almighty ‘you’ identified a mere human like her gorgeousness to catch her fancy, and the games begin, lies spring up and a relationship built on appearance is born which harms the society more than the 2 wrecked individuals. So if you want someone to impress, impress your spouse or at least your partner. Take her out to dinner on a Tuesday night, switch to Africa magic when your favourite football team is playing a live match, cook indomie and egg for her on Saturday morning, take her to the masseuse on Monday after work and let her know that you will not take her for granted.
It is not rocket science, at the same time nobody knows what a woman wants. Nobody, not even the women themselves know. It is complicated like that so I suggest we try to simplify it as much as we can. Things have changed and the human specie has evolved on a very large scale on the deception front, so when it is obvious that you are trying to impress a damsel, it could send the wrong “short term” signal to her. Women sense these things and are more impressed nonetheless when you don’t make it your duty to sweep her off her feet. She could like a person for the strangest reason and I am not referring to the superficial broads who just want to play dress-up all their life. A real lady would love you for just being you and not for doing things that are not you. 
If you are still trying to woo her, it is very simple. Be yourself. Everyone will not date a model or the hottest chick or the daughter of Aliko or Fashola. It’s just one person for each of those girls and to be honest there are a lot of beautiful girls out there just waiting to be loved for who they are. So why kill your pocket over the girl you may not get? Or let’s assume you get her, she has so much baggage than you can handle.
I may sound ‘old school’, but that’s the true way of doing things. And when you find that lady you should impress, impress the shit out of her and as I said, let her feel that you are indeed worth waiting for. It is not a race so there is no rush. Do not impress her before you need to impress her.  The only way to impress her before you get her to be your woman would be to love her; you would look very foolish doing that but that is only if you truly love her.